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How Anything Can Be Within your Reach
I’m here to let you know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. With a caring and understanding ear, I’ll help you to uncover the things that are holding you back in your relationship. Together, at your own pace, we can work through things like abuses, addictions, intimacy, sex, communication unhelpful habits and emotional issues.
It can help couples to learn how to communicate more successfully, resolve conflict, better understand each other, improve emotional connection and support bonds. No matter how long a couple have been together, no matter how deep the connection, relationships have all kinds of obstacles that need to be overcome. And, if obstacles are to be overcome, effective communication is essential.
Couple Therapy in Melbourne
I am an experienced couple’s therapist in Melbourne. The first step that I take is to teach each person how to deal with their feelings, stay composed, and use healthy communication skills to overcome the relevant issues. The majority of my couple therapy clients see a huge improvement in their communication skills as a result of counselling.
Couples therapy provides clients with a unique insight into their relationship. Together we can identify and discuss specific problems in the relationship such as sexual difficulties, jealousy or addiction. Couples therapy can be beneficial in resolving a current or on-going problem, preventing problems from escalating, or simply to help with a period of transition, trauma or stress.
My focus is on treating the relationship itself, with an aim to deliver solution-focused, change-oriented interventions. Through encouraging communication between both parties and listening to their grievances with each other, I can establish clear treatment objectives.
What Should You Expect When Starting Couple Therapy
Couple therapy should provide a warm and safe space where you can focus on the healing process and cultivate meaningful therapeutic relationships.
The therapeutic relationship itself is essential to the success of treatment. Maybe you want to discuss your presenting issues, concerns and establish the therapeutic relationship, but you don’t think it’s going to work? But you’re asking yourself the same questions continuously;
- Is your forever relationship starting to fall apart?
- Are the things that you valued about your relationship being replaced by arguments and disconnection?
- Do you wonder where the love you had for each other went?
- Are you starting to dread going home?
The pain that you feel now doesn’t mean it’s over. Your relationship can be repaired and can be better than before. But only if you both are willing to do what is required.
Deep down we have a desire to relate to somebody who is our soul mate, that special person who gets us and wants to be with us. We want to be able to love and to receive love and be appreciated for who we are. We can show you how to achieve this type of relationship.
We believe we’re getting the fairytale when we get married. You know — meet “the one,” have a whirlwind courtship, get married and live happily ever after. What the fairytales don’t tell you is that relationships take work.
Often times, we don’t go into a relationship with the tools to manage the challenges, which is where the pros come in. And by pros, I mean a couples counsellor or couples therapist who can help you learn new ways of relating to your partner.
The question is: when do you know it’s time to consider marriage counselling? Here are some trigger points and behaviours that are signs you may need help.
1. When you aren’t talking. In all honesty, many relationship challenges are simply challenging in communication. A therapist can help facilitate new ways to communicate with each other. Once communication has deteriorated, often it is hard to get it going back in the right direction.
2. When you’re talking, but it’s always negative. Negative communication can include anything that leaves one partner feeling judged, shamed, disregarded, insecure or wanting to withdraw from the conversation. Negative communication also includes the tone of conversation because it’s not always what you say, but how you say it. Negative communication can escalate into emotional abuse as well as non-verbal communication.
When Should You Go To Couples Therapy
- Trust has been broken. One of the most common reasons for seeking couples therapy is the need for help in overcoming a major breach of trust.
- Arguments are getting more frequent.
- Communication is poor.
- One or both of you becomes dysfunctional during a conflict.
- Emotional intimacy is gone or deeply diminished.
What Do You Do In Couples Therapy?
The main purpose of couple’s therapy is to put you and your significant other in a room with a neutral mediator to help you make sense of what’s going on. If you’re having trouble communicating with each other, then the counselor is going to help guide you through talking about it 7 signs your relationship is in trouble;
1. You are fighting over the same issues all the time, or having escalating fights
2. You are not able to air your issues, talk about them and resolve them
3. There are more and more silences between you
4. You are spending less time together
5. You are thinking about developing an interest with someone outside of your relationship
6. You are focusing more time on the kids than each other
7. You are having little or no sex
If you can identify some of these already in your relationship, it is wise to come and seek help so that your relationship doesn’t deteriorate further.
Relationship counselling can help a couple to:
- understand the relationship they currently share and how they feel about each other
- rediscover why they were attracted in the first place
- find out what they want from their relationship and from each other
- consider how both parties contribute to the current relationship
- identify what they are prepared to do to make the relationship work.
Counsellors don’t make judgements on who is right or wrong; they don’t tell clients what to do; and they don’t try to persuade people to stay together or to separate.
Counselling For Separating or Divorcing Couples
Counselling programs can help people who are separating and/or divorcing, to deal with their grief and anger, so they can move forward with a sense of purpose and plans for the future. Counselling may help you to:
- look at the changing nature of your relationship
- manage the grief and loss associated with a relationship breakdown
- assess the real value of anger
- identify a pathway for the separation
- learn about acceptance and ways to attain it
- learn to be single again
- gain the strength to consider a new and sustaining relationship.
Counselling and working through the problems of separation with someone who has no personal involvement can help people through this difficult time.
In reality, many people live happy, fulfilled lives following a relationship breakdown. Some people choose to re-partner and many do not. There is no right way.
Online Relationship Counselling
Relationships Australia offers a service where you can chat privately and securely about family or relationship issues with an online professional counsellor. If you are serious about improving your relationship you should book into see a regular counsellor and work with someone to help you overcome your relationship struggles. I offer free chats over the phone to establish your problem areas then provide a tailored plan to work towards achieving your relationship goals and i can be contacted on 0418 720 176
How To Get Help
There are numerous benefits of in treating a wide variety of relationship issues. It can be instrumental in improving overall relationship satisfaction, which in turn affects your individual wellbeing.
Couples therapy is helpful for all relationships, whether partners are straight, gay, dating, or married no matter their age. I’ve had partners from various different backgrounds and relationship statuses get in contact with me about my couples counselling in Melbourne.
In couples therapy, any issue is up for discussion. Common relationship issues include sexual intimacy, money, infidelity, in-laws, children, health problems, gambling, substance use, emotional distance, infertility, and frequent conflict.
Whatever your issues, I can provide a comfortable, confidential environment for you and your partner to communicate your feelings and experiences. My primary goal is to make sure that you feel comfortable at all times so that we can focus on the things you want to address.
Based in the Melbourne suburbs of Kew and Patterson Lakes, my offices is a welcoming and relaxing environment for couples therapy. In the event that you can’t attend sessions at my office, I’m more than happy to conduct sessions via a series of Skype calls. If you need support, I offer flexible, specialised couples therapy expertise.
Together, at your own pace, we can help you to work through your issues.
You can call me on 0418 720 176
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