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Sex Addiction Therapist, John Arber, Answers the Big Questions on Roo & Ditts for Breakfast

Interviewed on 15 May 2019 by Triple M Radio interviewed by Roo & Ditts 

Audio transcript:

Ditts: 104.7 Triple M Roo We’ve read a story here tell me what the headline says.

Roo: Thousands of Aussies treated for sex addiction this is happening more and more throughout Australia, people are seeking help for issues that they’re having behind closed doors.

Ditts: Now Roo quite seriously i wonder what or how do you qualify as a sex addict, right now John Arber is a Sex Addiction Therapist and he joins us now John Good Morning.

John Arber: Good Morning how are you?

Ditts: Good, how would you define a sex addict?

John Arber: Ok, so there’s a vast difference between a healthy sex appetite and a sex addiction, so when a persons addicted they’re going to find themselves watching or searching for more and more porn, spending more time than they would, they’ll cease to do other activities they used to persue, they’ll usually neglect their families, their work tasks or their uni and it also causes them psychological distress.

Ditts: So how long have you been in the game of treating sex addicts and how many people have you treated?

John Arber: Ok, I’ve treated over the past 5 years well over 1,500 I’ve been working in the addiction field. It’s really prevalent in America there’s 68 million visits to internet porn searches a day would you believe. and i see people from difference occupations they vary from tradies, IT workers, lawyers, CEOs, sports people, comedians, finance and middle management.

Ditts: So it could be anybody yeah.

John Arber: It could be anybody

Ditts: What’s the oldest and youngest sex addict you’ve dealt with?

John Arber: I’ve dealt with 18 years old right up to people in their 70s

Ditts: Is that the same as drug or alcohol? is that the same gene in the body?

John Arber: It certainly is and what happens there is with the alcohol people need more and more and more alcohol to get the same effect, well when someone watches pornography they get a dopamine rush. They need to watch more and more pornography to get the same rush and then it moves right on to from the spectrum of pornography right through to acting out on chat lines, brothels, massage shops, hook ups that sort of thing.

Ditts: Now, men or women is it more prevalent in one or the other?

John Arber: I see mainly men, that’s a good question and i think in America, just to give you an idea of internet porn it’s 28% female watch and 72% male visitors to the site.

I don’t see many females but they present differently

Ditts: What do you mean they present differently?

John Arber: They see a different light on it because a lot of guys use stimulants and alcohol and they go out and they go out with their mates, have a few drinks and from there they will score some stimulants some ICE or some Coke and from there they go off and act out on their sex urges because the stimulants enhance that for them. Interestingly people that identify as sex addicts there was a study and about 83% had a substance or alcohol abuse or compulsive gambling issues or were workaholics.

Ditts: John thanks so much for your time its an interesting topic and well done with the work that you do.

John Arber: and thank you very much and if anyone wants they can mention Triple M and call me on 0418720176 and i’ll give them an initial consultation on the phone and i won’t charge them for that.

Interviewees: Good on ya John, thanks. John Arber is a sex addiction therapist and you can go to johnarber.com.au

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